Back in 1973, 10 years
before India won the first World Cup, you would be forgiven if you
didnt know what Mark Grannoveter first said. In a seminar paper,
Grannoveter challenged the world to publish in the American Journal
of Sociology that its through weak links that important decisions
like jobs, marriage decisions are made. And boy, he made some solid
arguments in his defence. So said he, folks within our inner circle
are exposed to similar kind of information and are interested in
similar things. Its only through 'others' that new inventions flow
in.
Neither are my shoe's size
big enough to challenge him,nor my tiny brains smart enough to do it.
But for a past few days, I have this vague thought running through my
mind. Who makes you *happy*? Your parents? Siblings? Best Friends?
Probably, you might think in the affirmative.But,i
beleive these are the people for whom you exist. These are the people
who make life meaningful. But its the new crushes,the new friends
make life happy,more exciting than the previous night.
Infact,
I find the dearth of literature on the impact of new friends or
rather newer people in our life appalling. While we have spent reams
of paper, glorifying, celebrating, reminiscing and singing peans
about the beautfy of the best friend, often undeservedly, wonder why
we have not had the time to acknowledge the time to the new friend!
Infact, more often than not, best friends always have tears
associated with them, either by joy or through tears of seperation.
In
fact, I beleive a teenager's life is not made interesting by the
numerous girl friends that he professes to 'maintain' but because of
that new crush. That crush who just recently smiled at you in the
canteen, on whose sight your heart misses a beat. About whom you can
bitch about without being scared of being caught. That period when
you get to know her, when you have all the topics in the world to
talk about. When “whatelse?” never entered our conversation. When
you only ask for a treat, knowing fully well that it was not going to
come any soon. When you start the lightest flirting without knowing
her reaction?When you have to impress her to garner attention! When
you have to put on your smiling cloak to mask the tears inside. To
impress her. Those are the times.
With
a best friend, i find it strange when they miss them. We know them
too well to evenr miss them. We know exactly their reaction in
certian situations. But its in the uncertainity lies the thrill. Its
in these moments when you do not expect anything from anyone, that
you are really on your toes. Being new, sometimes, you find their
jokes absolutely pathetic. Sometimes absolutely brilliant. Its
infact, this uncertainity which makes it so romantic. So beautiful.
So,
the next time you say a hi! To me, Be careful, here is a guy who
knows your importance.
Noteplease:
The writer of the blog is a handsome young man of 23. :P
2 comments:
I like the title!:)
ya, my impression only going down drain no..:P
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